The shape of benzene
This is easily explained. Benzene is a regular hexagon because all
the bonds are identical. The delocalisation of the electrons means that
there aren't alternating double and single bonds.
The energetic stability of benzene
This is accounted for by the delocalisation. As a general principle,
the more you can spread electrons around - in other words, the more
they are delocalised - the more stable the molecule becomes. The extra
stability of benzene is often referred to as "delocalisation energy".
The reluctance of benzene to undergo addition reactions
With the delocalised electrons in place, benzene is about 150 kJ mol-1
more stable than it would otherwise be. If you added other atoms to a
benzene ring you would have to use some of the delocalised electrons to
join the new atoms to the ring. That would disrupt the delocalisation
and the system would become less stable.
Since about 150 kJ per mole of benzene would have to be supplied to
break up the delocalisation, this isn't going to be an easy thing to do.
The symbol for benzene
Although you will still come across the Kekulé
structure for benzene, for most purposes we use the structure on the
right.
The hexagon shows the ring of six carbon atoms, each of which has
one hydrogen attached. (You have to know that - counting bonds to find
out how many hydrogens to add doesn't work in this particular case.)
The circle represents the delocalised electrons. It is essential
that you include the circle. If you miss it out, you are drawing
cyclohexane and not benzene.